Lately, I've had more and more conversations with women whose husbands haven't been able to find a job; or work. We've come to the conclusion it is easier for a woman to find work in these economic times than a man. And so, the roles are being reversed.
I know my husband can feel discouraged; feeling like no one wants him. Our roles are completely reversed. I've been reminded what it is like to work outside of the home and try to continue balancing family. I have to remember that they all need my attention when they get home no matter how exhausted I am. And I have to remember to support and love him and not expect too much from him when I get home.
Because I've been in his shoes for 15 years! And he's been in mine. On the days when I come home absolutely exhausted and just want to crawl in bed and I KNOW he's been running kids around, trying to look for a job, trying to do the side jobs that he has and keep the house decent and make sure we're all happy, and feed us and help with homework...
I remember getting upset with him because he was gone all day and had no idea what it was like at home; and I just needed a little of him.....ouch.
He's patient when my phone starts ringing at 5:30 am and patient when I come home and work after work!
I've had to learn to let go of the way I do things; because he's home running the ship now, not me. And yes, his ways are a bit different than mine. Some definitely better, some not so much, but that's ok.
I miss being home with my family. I miss the extra time with my kids. I miss homeschooling. I miss just hanging and having conversations.
I miss my hubby walking through the door after a long day at work and planting a kiss on me.
Do I always remember to plant a kiss on him?
Yes, things are definately different now. I do enjoy my job and the challenges it brings. And I cannot express how blessed I am that my family supports me through it all.
I love to come home to one of them helping a younger one with homework.
I love to come home to music playing and conversations in the kitchen.
And hearing about their day....
It's definately different; but it's an ok different.